The Boundaries You Didn’t Know You Had

Why you’re doing more right than you realize (and that totally counts)

If you’ve ever thought, “I’m terrible at boundaries,” I have great news for you: you’re already doing it. Every. Single. Day.

• You say no when you turn down that extra cup of coffee because you know you’d be up all night.
  

• You say yes when you let your kid crawl into bed for five more minutes of snuggles.
  

• You create space when you silence your phone or shut the bathroom door and pretend you can’t hear anyone calling your name (just me?).

Those are boundaries. You’re honoring your energy, your needs, your limits—and that’s exactly what boundaries are meant to do.

We tend to think of “boundaries” as big, dramatic, uncomfortable moments—like announcing, “I’m not available for that anymore,” or finally telling your boss you won’t answer emails at 10 p.m. (bravo, by the way).

But boundaries are also the invisible, everyday choices that protect your peace and keep you aligned with what matters most.

So before you beat yourself up for not being “better” at boundaries, take a deep breath and notice the hundreds of quiet, brilliant ways you already honor yourself.

Maybe even start a list—your Everyday Boundaries You’re Already Rocking list.
(Bonus points if you add “hitting the snooze button” or “using the good mug.”)

And if you’d like those moments to feel easier—less guilt, more grace—start by asking yourself one simple question:

👉 “What would feel good to me right now?”

Then trust the answer. That’s your inner boundary compass talking.

You’re already doing this, my friend. Let’s just make it more intentional, more joyful, and a little lighter as you go.

✨ Here’s to everyday boundaries that keep you shining instead of shrinking.

— Shine on, my friend.